What I wish I knew exactly one year ago

Ever since deciding that I was Totally-Moving-On-With-My-Fabulous-Life I’ve been having these neurotic feelings that I wasted an entire year of my life not living properly. I was so invested in a relationship that was clearly going nowhere {not for my lack of trying really hard}, that I forgot I was living in a new city, earning regular money, and working somewhere freaking awesome. I find it really hard to get over the fact I let this happen, but instead of going into a full on freak out mode I plan on moving forward, and making 2013 jam packed full of life. Here are a few things I’ve picked up already.

There are never ever enough hours in the day, but if you get up early and go to the gym in the morning you can trick yourself into thinking there are.

You can also go for after work drinks without feeling guilty.

It’s a huge waste of time ‘lesson to be learnt’ sticking around with someone who doesn’t make you happy. {I’ve been told that it’s not a waste of time if you learnt something. I learnt many things but it still feels like a waste of time}.

If you don’t try, you’ll never know if you like something / get what you want.

Go out all the time with your friends. One day they’ll disappear and you’ll wish you had more fabulous adventures with them. Two of my friends are actually moving overseas this year and while being exceptionally excited for them, I’m not really used to the idea that they won’t be there. I’m selfish and want them to get drunk and crazy with me. {Going back to my point about wasting an entire year unhappy with a silly boyfriend, I wish I’d spent more time with them}.

Single people don’t ever get enough sex. Fact.

Friends that come with benefits are harder to find than you think. Also, fact.

Learn to edit everything you write. {This statement is a work in progress, as I barely edited this post, and probably should have}.


9 thoughts on “What I wish I knew exactly one year ago

  1. High five! 2013 is going to be amazing for you. I can’t help at laugh at the judgemental people who are telling you who you should and should not be having sex with (and the fact that they are calling themselves Jesus??? What the H?). It’s your body, have fun and be safe (and invest in a rabbit)


  2. That’s where you are all deluded. If sex with strangers is what you think makes you happy then prepare yourself for a much longer period of unhappiness than one year! What the fuck makes you feel good about being picked up by a guy? You don’t know him. He wants you for one thing. Disrespect yourself and your body all you want. But at the end of the day, being fucked by some guy you don’t know isn’t going to make you feel any better. I imagine problems with your own self esteem are what led you to be with someone you didn’t like for an entire year. HAVING SEX WITH BOYS DOESN’T MAKE IT BETTER. Boys will have sex with any girl. No matter what you look like, how smart you are, how funny you are, or what your personality is like. Stop making yourself feel better by using sex. Because that isn’t what a boy will differentiate you by. Let people see your real traits. Let them appreciate the real you. Let people see your real self rather than your drunk mess self when they do what they want to you and then never see you again.
    Get over your x. Stop talking about it. And move on with your life.

    1. This post barely even mentioned my ex or ‘me having sex’ (which according to you I’m having lots of?! hahaha). Did you ever stop to think that perhaps women can enjoy sex as much as men, and it’s not all about trying to get people to like us?

      If you hate sex and/or me that much stop reading this and go to church or something.

  3. First of all, HAHAHA at the reply you gave that guy. Attitude.
    Second, I totally get you, and if that person ever reads this again: YOU ARE WRONG. I, was also in a relationship that led to nowhere and feel like it was a waste, and I am not dwelling on the past. When you are someone that lives life and wants to get the best of it, a year stuck with someone that just made you suffer is a waste, specially when you loose touch of reality and your friends. You go girl!

  4. It seems to me that you haven’t moved on at all. You talk about being over him and blah blah blah, but this is still just a big fat winge about him. Youre still dwelling on him. He is still taking up your thoughts and you haven’t moved on.

    P. S. Just because you’re single now doesn’t mean you have to be a slut. Sex is for 2 people that love each other. Not 2 people who are single.

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